Women call Balaram “Bade”
Ananta, Sankarshana, Ram, Bala, Just Like Krishna, Daudada too has infinite names, but none of these names can ever attract the girls. The entire woman clan of the chambers of Krishna and his other brothers call him “Bade”. Is Dau dada some elder person? He is even younger to both the Taujis (Uncles), Vrajaraj Baba (Nanda Baba), both the Chachas including many other Gopas. Even Vishal, on standing close to him, appears greater in age. Rohini ma says – Dada is just a few 2- 2 (1/2) months elder to me, but what is this difference of months and days? I stood next to Balaram and measured his height, he is taller than me by 4 fingers. These women can only speak in terms of Bade and Chote. Making Badas, Pakodas, and Puris, day and night, they have developed a liking for such names only. Is it any less, that they have not named anyone as Pua or Modak. However, many a times they tease Madhumangala by calling him Modak Pandit, but even he calls their hair, a tail.
Daudada Physical appearance
Daudada is fair. How fair? It is difficult to express. Fair and white, but not white as milk. He is as lustrous as a tendril emerging from a Lotus stalk, He is dazzling fair as if he were something translucent. He looks so glossy at sight that even dust cannot stick to his body. We beautify his body by painting it with forest supplies and flower juices. We can see our face on his mirror like-reflective body and all colors spring up on his body. Dada like Krishna doesn’t keep moving, he sits calm; hence beautiful complete artworks can only be drawn on his body owing to his stable posture. Chote Chacha is Malla Chacha. His body like a fastened rope is severe and harsh and the meat and muscles of his arms and thighs bulge outwards, are raised, and look very eye appealing. He says- Bala (Balaram) is Bala (Strength) personified. Such a shapely body, as if casted from a mold, another body as such is rare in the universe. I have never seen a wrestler so well-built. Chacha’s body is hard and tough, but Daudada’s is soft and tender. Krishna is like a ball of butter. Even a rose petal can’t be that delicate (Sukumar). But If Dau dada embraces or if you touch him, it feels soft and pleasing. Even Dau Dada’s feet are reddish and tender. A large forehead, large eyes, Dada’s eyes are redder than Krishna’s ruby like red eyes and it feels like incessant streams of care, and mercy are causelessly flowing from them.
When does Dau dada get angry?
But if Dada were angry on someone, When Krishna killed that demon disguised as a Gopas child (Vyomasura) in Vraja, Balarama were not present then, but even if someone teases Krishna or a Sakha, Daudada becomes angry then. At that time, Dada’s face becomes so red, like the rising sun of early dawn. Dada’s eyes are hot like blazing coal. But Dada’s anger hardly lasts for a split of a second. Otherwise, he doesn’t even know what anger means. Maiya, Gopis and all the elder Gopas say- “Ram should not get angry. On getting angry, He becomes gloomy, and then whatever one may do, he will sit with his head cast down. He would neither lift his head, nor look towards someone nor do any work. His young brother Krishna can only elevate his moods, at that time”
Dau dada- our elder brother
We all are his younger brothers. He is our Dada. None of us have seen him annoyed. Dada is extremely loving. Can he ever get upset? We all can, as our mind pleases come running and jumping from any direction, be it forwards, backwards or sideways and cling over Dada. Anybody can decorate his hair and body with flowers, forest supplies, twigs or feathers. Dada never stops anyone. He never brushes them off. All Sakhas without hesitation, can pour their hearts only to Dada about someone from their respective houses. Dada listens to all one has to say. He also hears the mutual conflicts between the Sakhas. Krishna keeps teasing Sridama. Even Sridama takes the complaint of Krishna’s naughtiness to Dada only.
Dau dada- the peacemaker
Dada is wonderful. Even If a GopaKumar, Sridama or a young Sakha complains about Krishna’s naughty pranks to me, then sometimes even I have to slightly reproach Krishna, But Dada neither scolds Krishna or his Sakha nor does he reproach someone. He will neither call the culprit nor get the happenings inquired from him. He will get the Sakha who approached him, to sit beside him. He will then lovingly stroke his back, fiddle with the flowers and feathers on his hair or can even start feeding him. He gives so much love that in his presence, not a single trace of displeasure can maintain in their hearts.
Daudada’s cloth gets exchanged
Dada ties a Blue Dhoti and the same blue color upper cloth rests on his shoulder. Dada’s upper cloth can any time get exchanged with Bhadra, Sridama or Subala. Even they carry a blue upper cloth and many times on purpose, they pull Dada’s upper cloth and put it on their shoulders and put their cloth on Dada’s shoulder. Dada never feels it even when you demand any of his belongings. You cannot predict which feather will flutter on his hair. Peacock feather, Swan feather, the green feather of a parrot or the feathers with multiple stripes, any of these or even feathers of multiple hues can flutter on his hair. If Krishna or another friend inserts a feather in Dada’s hair, it will remain intact as it is. Yashoda Maiya and Rohini Ma always adorn it with a Peocock feather. Daudada has golden hair, like loops of yellow silk. Extremely soft and curly. A large blue sapphire (Neelmani) rests on Dada’s throat. Dada likes ornaments with Cat’s eye (वैदूर्य) and blue Saphire (नीलमणि) embedded in them. However, jewels and flowers of all hues adorn his parts.
Daudada- the most benevolent brother
It is up to the Sakhas to decide the choicest flowers they wish to strew in Dada’s Vaijanthimala. Ask Dada and see- “Dada, What will you eat?” Dada doesn’t even maintain his own tastes-“Whatever you feed me.” With the same vigor and love, he will cherish Tenti (thorny bush) and Amla as he would cherish Modak or Ghee sweetened with Mishri. Even on putting Hartiki, Kalimirch, Pippali (Long pepper) or Arda Sunthi in his mouth, he partakes it with immense joy.
Krishna troubles Dau Dada
Dada wears earrings only on the right ear. He doesn’t wear earrings in the left ear at all. On asking he said- “Why should I invite the trouble you keep facing with Krishna? Krishna cannot stay without resting his head on my shoulder, nor can he stay still on keeping his head there.” Krishna doesn’t stand leaning towards the right arm of Daudada, not does he sit that way. He always stands or sits with the support of Dada’s left shoulder and often places his head on his shoulder. His nature is such that whoever he sits and stands with, he will place his head on his shoulder and whisper something in his ears, will laugh and keep moving his head. If it were somebody else, irrespective of right and left, he would stand clipping to him, or sit according to his whims. If you stop wearing earrings, then you must stop wearing it on both ears and if that is the case, Krishna will removes his earrings and make you wear them. If the ears of a Sakha are bereaved of earrings, this, the Vrajaraj Tanay cannot see. By the tactic of wearing earrings only on one ear, Dau dada has just earned a little relief. Keeping his head on Dada’s left shoulder, Krishna many a time moves his head so wildly, that his earring get entangled with Dada’s hair. Even on getting his earring entangled, he laughs and claps. If someone’s earring get entangled with the other, then a third person must be called to set it right. Krishna only knows how to get people entangled with him. He doesn’t even realize that if hair and earrings get entangled, he would also have to suffer the pain on pulling the hair or earrings.
Dau Dada- Our king of Vraja
Daudada’s stick is heavy. Krishna fails to lift it. Bhadra can only blow Dau dada’s conch. But Dada, occasionally does he carry his conch or horn along in the forest. Why should Dada carry a Conch or a Horn, he is a King. Even the Aged-Gopas say- “Dau is the king of Vraja.” We all Gopakumaras consider Dada to be our King, but Dada is a silent King. He never orders anyone. Leave punishment alone, he doesn’t even shrug anyone off. He keeps sitting quietly and extends his love and care unconditionally. Even rabbits and squirrels sit on his lap. Baby monkeys taking his upper cloth from his shoulder play with it. Even cows and calves, moving Dada with their heads and face, request Him to stand. If someone wants Dada to do something or demands something from him, dada cannot reject his desire. He is simply there to fulfil the wants and desires of everybody. Even Krishna doesn’t disappoint any, but first, dancing his thumb, he would certainly tease them. Whatever you ask, whatever you want him to do, Dada says “yes” to all your demands.